Tony,
The reason why the harder material wears is: the abrasive particles [coal ash and dust] "rolls" into the soft material, becomes embedded and you have agrinding wheel , this is the principle used in making a Lapping tool , it seems counterintuitive that a soft lead bar for instance can have diamond dust rolled into the surface and will then abrade a much harder material.
Ive been working on a Annabell today which has had a vigorous years running and it has wear on the rods etc such that Ive bushed them,but the crankpins are mild steel and unworn!
Gordon.