Well, I know that is probably not a friendly remark, but I'm presenting a few years of experience here, and the compendium of what I have learned and executed.
If there's things wrong in my statements, please by all means, let's discuss, my post is to try to answer the OP's question, and I consist locos about 90% of the time, in G and Z scales.
There's a lot of "common knowledge" that is rooted in history, and some is no longer true. I started G scale when I was told that DCC outside was flat out impossible.
I have been told that BEMF is never to be used in consisting, I have been told a lot of things.
But I have a scientific background, so I always ask for an explanation when things don't make sense... often there is no explanation, but just something someone heard 10 years ago..
Truly, 10 years ago DCC in large scale was iffy, because there was no sense to prevent the microprocessor from brief power interruptions... now virtually all DCC decoders have some on-board capacitors to keep the micro "alive"...
When someone starts talking about BEMF just being an on/off situation, which is true on some decoders, it does not tell the whole story. There are the 3 parameters (PID) that can flavor BEMF quite a bit, as I tried to convey.
All I am trying to convey is that there are definitely alternatives to replacing motors in DCC locos to match 2 locos... and it's not too tough.....
If it's not deemed helpful, just let me know.. I was providing reasons and facts to back up my statements, not just "oh you are wrong about BEMF" or "you are wrong about speed tables"
So, apparently I am damned if I do (provide explanations why)
and damned if I don't (not provide explanations for my statements)
This is a complex issue, and not everyone is familiar how the stuff works together, I took the OP's request for help literally... noted the statement was "if xyz, then they will never match"... I disagree and provided support for my statement. This was for the benefit for the OP...